Shock and Awe

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they look in the mirror and think what the heck happened to me. Today is that day folks. 

I was putting on my makeup and noticed all of the wrinkles and dry skin and well oldness. 

Quite honestly it’s jarring. I never thought it would happen to me. I really thought I’d be pretty my entire life. But when I looked in the mirror this morning I realized that’s not the case. 

It explains a lot.  I don’t know when it happened! When did the lines and wrinkles take over? And don’t get me started on the hair! My beautiful hair is not staying the color it should. Sure, I’ve always colored my hair, since I was 16. 

About 10 years ago I went back to my natural color. I couldn’t remember what that was so I had to let the roots grow out and tell my hairdresser to match the roots. There was no grey, but today, today it is over taking me. I’m simply not ready to be old. 

Ok, that’s not true, age I can handle, losing my looks, that’s entirely different. I’ve skated by on those! No one ever noticed I was actually smart. What do I do now? I’ll have to go in hiding, incognito as it were. 

I’ll change my name from Angie to Bea (I always imagine a Bea as old) I’ll buy some support hose and nurses shoes. Shapeless dresses. OMG! I never thought about the clothes! Do I have to stop wearing jeans??? Is that a thing? All of my clothes are form fitting, do I have to give that up? Is there a list of rules for when this happens? 

I have a very specific Angie style, boots, jeans, heels, form fitting clothes, jeans, cute tops. What happens to all of that? Do I have to wear house dresses? Pants with elastic waists??? 

This is seriously the worst dilemma I have had in a while. I’m working out so I won’t be shapeless. Do I have to dress shapeless? 

I have so many questions, this very literally snuck up on me. 

New Year New Actions

It’s that time of year again, you know, the time where people start making unrealistic “resolutions”. Where did this come from? The new year brings a new life; I have found that life goes on as it always did. There is no fresh start there are only paths and you have to choose the ones you want to travel.
I have never given up anything or made any resolutions, my only resolution is to not be a sheep. Or a lemming, either one of those things in this world is bad.
I think for myself, I do my research, I pray to God for wisdom and strength every single day of my life. I always, always try and do the right thing.
The right thing for a lot of people involves self, self-interest, do whatever makes you feel good. That is the biggest load of hogwash known to man.
I have said it before, if I did what makes me feel good, I would be 8 million pounds. Because what makes me feel good is puffy Cheetos, chocolate, sour skittles, diet coke, Starbucks and dressing. Oh, and watching television, if I didn’t need to sleep I could watch television 24×7. I have loved television since I was little, I seriously cannot remember a time without it. I have a bigger love of books, but television is right up there.
Do what makes you feel good, seriously, who buys into that? The world, that’s who, the world is going to tell you that you are the only one that matters in your world.
But here it is folks, there are more important things than your own selfish wants, I count myself in this as well.
I have a huge love of shoes, fashion, makeup and candy, it would be easy for me to do what makes me feel good. It is human nature, but we are not supposed to aspire to human nature, we are to aspire to Jesus nature. I am speaking as if anyone who reads this is a Christian, so if you’re not, then you cannot be offended. It’s Angie World for a reason.
Jesus commands us to take care of each other, this is not a political thing, it is not up to the government to take care of us. We are supposed to be looking out for each other.
My dad told me that when he was a boy, about once a month his dad would load their wagon up with bags of food from their farm.
They would then go to certain homes and simply leave the bags on the front porches. There was no knock, no interactions, just the act of leaving the food and getting out of Dodge.
My dad said this went on for a while and finally he asked his dad why they were doing this. His dad’s simple answer was that neighbors take care of each other. Their farm was doing well, some others weren’t’ and he wasn’t about to see folks starve.
It was the depression and in Oklahoma, it was real, people were starving. But not in their world, my great-grandfather saw to it. As long as there was enough for his family he would take the excess and make sure others could feed their children.
That is who I am descended from, that is what we do, we see a need and we fill it. This is the way the world is supposed to work according to Jesus. Feed the body then feed the soul.
Before today’s world, neighborhoods were different, there were no garages in the back, everyone was in the front. We all knew each other and we especially knew when a family was in trouble.
We are too insulated today, all of us, I am not absolving myself from this scenario. I don’t know my neighbors, I kinda know the ones behind me, but the ones next to me moved and the other side they are never home. And well that’s about it. I am very non-social as well, I am an introverted extrovert. An anomaly as it were.
So here is what I believe we should all do in the new year, ditch the resolutions, just walk out your front door and meet your neighbors.
Take care of each other, take the government out of it, we should be helping one another.

Revenge Body

About a week ago I began seeing a commercial about getting a revenge body. At first I thought it was a joke commercial, like Saturday Night Live used to do. Anyone remember doggy downers and puppy uppers?
Realization dawned on me when I saw it several more times, it wasn’t a joke, it’s an advertisement for a new television show. A new Kardashian show, as if there aren’t enough of them already.
I paid attention, what is this I wondered, well, turns out the premise is Khloe will work with people to help them achieve their revenge goals of getting a good body.
Hmmm, is that revenge? I mean I know what revenge is, Lorena Bobbitt did revenge very well, not that I’m advocating that. Maybe.
I have even done a few little revenge actions of my own, and they felt good. Nothing as drastic as the Bobbitt, but still, satisfying in their own way.
Never once have I exercised my way to revenge. I am here to tell you, that person you want revenge on for calling you fat, they don’t care. They will still look at you and see fat, if a person calls you that, puts you down for that, they will not magically like you once the fat comes off. I know, because I have been the fat girl, the person (people) who called me fat, which I was, and made fun of me, did not like me after the weight was gone. I didn’t lose it for them to begin with so it didn’t matter.
Here’s the thing, and there is always a thing, if you are fat, obese, fluffy, curvy, or whatever you want to call it, and you want to lose weight, do it for yourself. Do it for your children, do it for your grandchildren.
Do it because you want to be healthy, to live to see your children achieve their goals, you want to live to see your grandchildren grow up to have children of their own.
I have battled weight my entire life, I have never made a secret of that fact, I was born fat, 9lbs, 10oz. Fat. I stayed chunky my entire life.
In high school, I lost the weight, due to a great diet of celery. Yes, celery. I lived on it for about three months, drove my mother nuts.
You see I chose celery because you burn more calories chewing it than it has in it. I was obsessed with sit-ups; parental units did not know that. If they had I’m pretty sure there would have been an intervention somewhere in there.
Right now I am working out, at a place I really love (please don’t tell them that) I love the place, the owners, the trainers (once again, sssshhhh) the other people, the ones I workout with, well, those you can tell.
My beautiful daughter, Elizabeth Anne and youngest son, Thomas Alexander, have enabled me to go to this place. I feel stronger when I work out there, I feel better eliminating certain things from my diet. It’s not easy, I have a thing about sugar, it has been my friend my entire life.
I don’t work out to get revenge on anyone, if I did it would be a short-lived effort. I do this for me, number one, number two is for my amazingly awesome children, I really want to live long enough where they have to take care of me in my dotage. C is for Tessa, I want to see what she becomes, The Force is strong in this one and she is truly one of the most fascinating people I have ever known. That she is one of us is a pure old fashioned bonus.
I want to see her children; I want to see other grandchildren when they come along.
Working out and getting fit and getting a “good” body is not for revenge; it is for living.
I am going to do something I have never done before, at the end of this post I am going to post my before and after picture, the after is still a work in progress, but it will show you what can be done if you work hard.
Revenge will only get you so far before it withers away, you lose the desire to get revenge on a person you are done with. If there is someone you want revenge on, move on, it’s really not worth it in the long run. Unless you are a Bobbitt.

Before and After
Before and After

Ghost of Christmas Past

When I talk about my childhood I leave six years out of the loop. It is incredibly rare for me to address those years, to think about them even.
There is a good chunk of the time I am able to completely forget they happened.
But today, oh today, I made the mistake of looking at Officer Norman’s Instagram account. They had their Season of Giving event. It is where the police department, businesses and people from the community come together to give to people who don’t have a lot. Materialistically speaking.
I fully admit it took me a while to stop crying, from the touching videos of excited children, grateful parents and people who were handing out presents, watching them receive their blessings in the form of humility.
It is humbling to witness that type of poverty up close, the majority of us are so insulated from that severity of poverty.
Part of me wishes I could say I’ve never experienced it, but that would be a lie. From the time I was 5 until I was 12 I lived in a neighborhood very much like the one in North Little Rock.
I lived in Oklahoma City, in one of the poorest areas of the city, I went to Wheeler Elementary School. I have incredibly fond memories of my teachers and the principle of the school.
The memory that sticks with me the most, that impacted my life the most was the Christmas I was in the 2nd grade.
It sticks out because we had a Christmas program and the firemen came. They had their trucks, they pulled their ladders out and they even had one of the trucks that had the basket on it. That is what Santa came to our school in. It was so exciting and amazing, they brought presents for all of us in the school and Santa gave each one of us a candy cane.
It sticks out so much because that year, the only Christmas present I got was the one the firemen brought to our school.
When I watched the videos of the excited children and grateful parents that Christmas came rushing back.
It has impacted the way I have treated Christmas for my children all of their lives. I want them to have amazing Christmases with presents galore, even at this stage of their lives.
I want them to feel that they matter, that someone loves them, that they are the most important person to someone.
I am incredibly blessed that I was adopted by my parents and taken to Owasso later on. But I’ll always remember that Christmas, the one that if it hadn’t been for people in the community I would have had nothing. I now realize, as an adult, that there were many children in that community that were like me. That was their only Christmas present.
I know what some are thinking, presents don’t make Christmas, but when you are a child it does. When you are a child that has to go without a lot of things year round, Christmas matters. A simple gift matters.
What brought it all rushing back was a specific video that Officer Norman posted. A twelve-year-old girl, Tashanti, teared up, telling Officer Norman that it was like someone cared what happens to her, to others in her neighborhood.
I am going to post it, for those of you who have never had to live in that type of poverty, this might give you some idea of what that toy you donate might do for them.
When a child feels like someone in the world cares about what happens to them it makes a world of difference in their world. It gives them hope and also gives them the strength to face the rest of the year. The rest of the year where they go without certain things their parents can’t afford.
God Bless everyone that gives to things like this, God Bless those that receive those blessings.
Here is the video that moved me so much:

The video of Tashanti is the last one in the article.

Commonalities with Dean Cain

I’m a little bit late with this, but as they say, better late than never. It seems in July of this year, 2016 to be exact, Dean Cain did a 25 things you don’t know about me interview with US Magazine.
So, just for fun, I thought we might go through the list and see what he and I have in common, buckle up, it’s going to be fun:

  1. I am adopted.
    Me: OMG! I am adopted as well! So much in common already!
  2. I’ve never met my biological father.
    Me: hmmm I met mine once. Was not pleasant, you had the better experience there.
  3. I am a quarter Japanese.
    Me: I’m part Viking! See, so much in common! They are both warrior types.
  4. I’m a middle child.
    Me: I am the youngest, so not so much there. Moving on.
  5. I grew up in Malibu with Sean Penn, Chris Penn, Rob Lowe, Chad Lowe, Emilio Estevez, Charlie Sheen and Holly Robinson Peete, among others.
    Me: I’m from Owasso! It’s practically the Malibu of Oklahoma!

  6. I used to be a decent surfer. (Sean Penn was a great surfer.)
    Me: I’m an ex-skater, wow, this is just uncanny. I don’t know how we haven’t met.

  7. I graduated from Princeton University with a bachelor’s degree in history.
    Me: I love history, however was Journalism was what I was majoring in, life got in the way. I would have minored in history. So there’s that.
  8. I was an All-American football player at Princeton.
    Me: next
  9. I still hold two NCAA records: My career interceptions per game average was 0.73, and I had an average of 1.2 interceptions per game in a single season.
    Me: next again
  10. I love dogs. Cats, not so much.
    I have dogs! That I love, I also have a cat, but he could be a really fluffy dog if you squint.
  11. I briefly played professional football for the Buffalo Bills.
    Me: man, this harder than I thought.
  12. I’ve had six different surgeries, which explains the “briefly” in my last answer.
    Me: I’ve had surgeries! Back to being alike. Whew!
  13. I cook every day.
    Me: OMG I eat every day!
  14. I’m a writer and have written dozens of scripts. (Three set to go in 2016!)
    Me: wow, this is amazing even me, I write on the internet all the time. No one reads me, but I still write. Actually, I’ve been writing all my life. I love words, you can do so much with them, encourage, love, inform, decimate, incriminate and so much more.
  15. I’m a homebody.
    Me: I’m at home now!
  16. I have a 15-year-old son named Christopher, after my adoptive father.
    Me: my children are grown, but I did name my youngest son after my ancestor that came to America in 1774 and fought with the Continental Army.
  17. My son is my favorite human. I’m 6 feet, and he’s taller than me.
    Me: my children are my favorite humans! And 2 are taller than me. (sorry Elizabeth Anne)
  18. I love being a dad.
    Me: I LOVE being a mom!
  19. I am fascinated with military history.
    Me: no exaggeration here, I am completely fascinated with history, specifically American History. There has been a member of my family serving in the military since 1774. You name the branch and one of us has been in it, I am completely fascinated by the inherited patriotism we all have.
  20. I’m an avid video game player, especially World of Warcraft and Call of Duty.
    Me: hmmm does Tetris count?
  21. I love watching football. Any football. Anytime.
    Me: next
  22. I cannot stand tailgaters while driving. Seriously, where are you going?
    Me: wow, seriously, I do believe we are soulmates, and I don’t believe in soulmates!
  23. I speak decent Spanish.
    Me: does Klingon count as a language? Oh! I speak California Valley Girl, Oklahoman, Southern and Texan.
  24. I’m a sucker for a genuine smile — and kindness and happiness.
    Me: I love to smile!
  25. I’m still looking for my future wife.
    Me: I don’t know how to respond to this as someone might not be too happy with me.

Well there you have it folks, Dean Cain and I have so much in common! I don’t even know how on earth we have never met.
As always, if there is a question or comment you don’t want published, my email address is

A Few Reasons Why I Didn’t Vote for HRC

What I have been saying was going to happen, happened, Hillary Clinton was not elected as the president of the United States of America.
So of course those that didn’t vote for her are misogynistic, sexist and strangely racist.
I have written before, here, the reasons I was not going to vote for her. They are numerous, and have nothing to do with her gender. At all. It also had nothing to do with President Obama, I didn’t not vote for Clinton based on President Obama’s skin color as I have seen some posts suggest. It’s confusing, I know, I was confused when I read that, some things I’ve read refer to it as whitelashing.
Here are my reasons for voting the way I did:

Since no one listened, I am going to tell you again why this woman did not get my vote.
I am adamantly pro-life; I believe Planned Parenthood should be defunded. They do not provide any health services. They don’t do mammograms, which was everyone’s argument. Women have other health options and besides, obviously Planned Parenthood makes enough money charging for their services as they gave $1,073,464.00 in donations to the Democratic party. If they are able to give that, they don’t need my tax dollars. Also, if an entity is getting tax dollars, they should not be able to be partisan. They should be a neutral party, as they will be at the mercy of the party that is in office, in my humble opinion.
Moving on, illegal immigration is, well, illegal and should not be encouraged. Now, the ones that were brought here as children and didn’t have a choice, there should be some program for them to get to citizenship. It also costs a lot and if you cannot afford a good lawyer specializing in immigration you’re pretty much out of luck. That should be looked into. But if you came here, as an adult, illegally, go home. Try coming here the right way, the legal way.
Next, the refugee issue, the DoD has said they have no way to vet these people. That’s insane, these people are coming from countries that literally want to kill us and do away with our way of life. They are coming from countries that throw gay people off of buildings, they are coming from countries where it is illegal to be gay. She took money from countries where they kill gay people! I am adamantly against killing anyone for their sexual orientation.
While we are on the subject of refugees and how they treat people, let’s look at how they treat women. If a woman is raped, it is her fault in these countries, oftentimes she is killed in an honor killing. HRC took money from these countries.
These are some of the reasons I did not vote for Hillary Clinton. I didn’t vote for Donald J. Trump because I thought he was a fantastic person, a white person, a man. I voted for him because I am exhausted from our country being taken further down a path I believe will be cataclysmic. As a matter of fact, border patrol has said if we do not stop illegal immigration it will be a cataclysmic event, as they are pouring into poor cities on the border and they cannot handle that influx and it is draining those communities.

I am not xenophobic, I am not misogynistic, I am not racist, I am not sexist. I am an American who didn’t like the platform of a certain candidate and I voted for a platform I believed in, as everyone should.
I will say this as well, I know a lot of African American men and women who voted for President-elect Trump. They are not racists, xenophobic or misogynistic or sexist, they voted their beliefs, they voted for what they thought was in their best interests as far as their communities, families and faith were concerned.
Also, if you voted a different way than I did, I understand you have your belief system as I have mine. I respect that, because we live in a country where we have the option to respect our differences and work toward a middle ground.
as always my email address is

Not a Hillbilly

I feel the need to start off by stating I am not a hillbilly, I am not homophobic, racist, xenophobic or any other phobic Hillary Clinton called me. I am a white, middle-aged, college educated woman, who works in a white collar industry.
According to every poll out there, I should be voting for a woman. Hillary Clinton to be exact. I am not. I will be voting for Donald Trump. This entry is not to defend my choice, I don’t feel I have to, I believe it should be obvious to everyone who is an American.
However, I will explain why I am not voting or Hillary Clinton, and it is not because I believe a woman cannot rule. I very much think women can rule; I rule a universe. It takes the right woman, a woman of her word, one that does not lie, one that does not do questionable actions.
Let’s dive in shall we:
Clinton continually attacks Donald Trump on all of her leaked emails. She blames him saying he encouraged Russia to leak them. Interesting. Let’s take a look at her dealings with Russia.
Donations to the Clinton Foundation were closely linked to a uranium mining company tied to the Kremlin. Canadian leaders of a mining company funneled millions of dollars to the foundation while Clinton was secretary of state, at the same time they needed Department of State approval for the sale of their company to Russia. The Clinton State Department-approved deal gave Russia control of one-fifth of the entire uranium supply in the U.S. One-fifth of the entire uranium supply in the United States of American, it bore repeating. Am I the only one troubled by this?
The chairman of the uranium mining company donated $2.35 million to the Clinton foundation, without any disclosure from the Clintons. After Russia announced its intention to make a bid for the uranium mining company, former President Bill Clinton was paid $500,000 to deliver a speech in Moscow.
Follow the money, I don’t understand how this is shocking, we are talking about a couple that stole from the White House, i.e. the American People, on their way out of office. They had to return everything.
So we see Clinton’s ties to Russia, clearly, where is Donald Trump’s ties?
Oh yes, I remember, Vladimir Putin was asked what he thought about Donald Trump. He laughed and said he was flamboyant, which he thought was good. Trump in turn said that Putin was a better leader than Barack Obama, he’s not wrong. Now, before you started pulling up the box to climb on your high horse, allow me to explain my reasoning. I do not agree with the way the Russian leader leads, however, lead he does. The supposed leader of our country says things like I have a pen and a phone, that’s not leadership in a democratic republic, that’s dictatorship.
On to the middle east:
The Clinton Foundation accepted donations from several foreign governments while Clinton served as secretary of state, including Algeria, Kuwait, Qatar, and Oman.
In the instance of Algeria, the Clinton Foundation did say to The Washington Post in 2015 it should have sought clearance from the Department of State’s ethics office before taking $500,000. However, they didn’t give the money back. After Clinton left office, the foundation received a large donation from the United Arab Emirates.
Clinton Foundation officials ignored nearly all “best practices” urged by good governance organizations, a July Daily Caller News Foundation investigation found. When Donald Trump challenged Clinton to give back the donations from countries that abuse women and homosexuals, a DCNF investigation found it would amount to between $19.3 million and $55.7 million. She smirked, it was there for all to see. She takes money from countries that have a practice of throwing gay people off of buildings. But wait, I thought Trump supporters were the homophobes? I’m so confused. She took money from countries where women have no rights, wait, I thought Trump was the anti-woman candidate.
He urged her to give the money back, she smirked, please, please, for the love of all that is holy, what is so funny about throwing gay people off of buildings? What is so funny about women being regularly abused and having no rights?
Let’s discuss what everyone is up in arms about regarding Donald Trump, let’s start with an eleven-year-old recording of really crude talk with another man. Was it disgusting? Yes. Was I offended? No. I have heard worse at work from women. If you have never heard anyone use crude words or talk about the opposite sex in this fashion, well, good for you. Or even the same sex. I’ve heard way worse than this from gay friends. Do I believe the women that are now coming out saying he groped them? No. Where were they when he won the nomination? That would have been the time to come out.
Also their accusations are falling like house of cards. It is also coming out how Hillary Clinton, the DNC and AUC (Americans United for Change) have all colluded together to incite violence at Donald Trump rallies.
Just in case you were curious, that is illegal, Trump supporters on the other hand, did not go to Hillary rallies (were there any) and incite violence.
I am not voting for Hillary Clinton for so many reasons, these are just a few.
I am not a hillbilly, I am not uneducated, I am not poor, most of all, I am not blind.
Trump is not perfect, but there is no doubt in my mind, he loves this country. He has taken no donations from large super pacs. In fact, when the Koch brothers approached him, he told them no.
His donations come from small donors, people, working people. Then he matches it with his own money. He pays his women executives on level or better than the men that work for him.
Hillary cannot say the same, in fact the women that work at the Clinton Foundation make 38% less than their male counterparts. Wait I thought she was all about helping women? So confused.
There is a video, of Donald Trump, it is long, roughly 20 minutes, that chronicles him from the 1980’s to present. His message has been consistent, he has never wavered in his love of this country and his commitment to making it better. His charitable acts are not getting the light of day for some reason. That was sarcasm people, we know why MSM is not reporting them. I am going to post both videos here.
I would also encourage you to go look at the Veritas Project, doing what journalists should be doing.

Wall Street Journal
Washington Post
The Daily Caller News Foundation
One America News Foundation

Peaceful Assembly

I am proudly from Oklahoma; I don’t believe I have ever hidden that fact. I preface what I am about to say with that for good reason.
I follow several news outlets from my home state, a few days ago there was a news article regarding some students at OU staging a protest.
Now, before I continue, this is not about what they were protesting, I don’t believe that is the important issue at hand at this point. What this is about is their right to protest.
With so many people protesting the wrong way, rioting, looting, harming people, beating them, shooting them and burning neighborhoods down, this group exercised their First Amendment Right, the correct way.
They stage a peaceful protest, let me say it again, peaceful. They followed the rules of not only the Constitution of the United States of America, they behaved the way we are supposed to in a civilized society.
At the moment I read the article, I was proud of this group of young people, once again, not for what they were protesting, but in the manner they went about it. The correct way, the legal way, the civilized way, the Oklahoma way.
I scrolled down to the comments, because, well, let’s face it, these days that is the best part of the internet. Best/worst, take your pick.
People were vicious in their attack upon these protesters. I thought, what! Are you kidding me? They are literally rioting in the streets in some states. Being destructive, unproductive, unlawful, and these young people exercised their First Amendment Rights the correct way and you want to vilify them for that?
Of course I could not contain myself, perhaps I should have, but I would not be me if I had. I commented on how I didn’t understand the name calling in the comments and how the students had been within their rights to protest. It doesn’t matter what they were protesting they were within their rights to do so. As long as they obey the rules of the land I am going to defend their right to protest.
Of course at that point I opened myself up to attack, and did they. I was called names; I was called a Hillary supporter (which to me is the worst) I was vilified.
I find it shocking, that we, as Americans, don’t recognize civility and law-abiding people when we are told about them.
How are people so completely ignorant of the law? How are people so completely ignorant of our constitution? I hear it misquoted all the time. I hear people quoting the preamble as the actual constitution. Where did all of the civics classes go? Did people not attend them? Mind you the people spouting these things are roughly my age. No excuses. I grew up in Oklahoma, I was taught what it means to be an American. I was taught that all people were created equal. I was taught the First Amendment is our most important one, as it opens the door to the rest of them.
If we didn’t have Freedom of Speech, Freedom of the Press, the right to peaceful assembly, we wouldn’t have any of the others.
Freedom comes with a price, it is the price of obeying the laws, of knowing your rights and exercising them.
I commend this group of students at OU for exercising their First Amendment right to peaceful assembly.
There it is, peaceful, non-violent, they didn’t incite a riot, they didn’t scream obscenities, they didn’t beat innocent bystanders, they didn’t loot Norman, they didn’t start fires. They peacefully assembled.
If you have any comments that are vicious in nature, I will delete them. As this is AngieWorld and I write the constitution of that world. However, my email address is angie@angieworld.

Officer Tommy M Norman

I love Snoop Dogg, there I said it, judge me if you will, but I have this deep love of Snoop. Not his music so much, as I am not in his demographic, not a race thing (before anyone can get started on that) it’s an age thing. I think I have well established I am incredibly old. I still love all things Motown and Disco, not to mention CCR, Foreigner, Kiss, John Williams and anything Christian Kane. If anyone took a good look at my playlist they would probably think three of four people listen to what is in there. I am very eclectic. Did I mention TSO? I love classical music as well.
So, having said all of that, I love Snoop Dogg due to the interviews I have seen. He is thoughtful, respectful, thought-provoking and refreshingly honest. He also seems to have a desire to make his community better, he coached his son’s football team. He does a lot more than just rap.
Of course I follow him on Facebook and that is where I saw the video of him and a fellow rapper name The Game. They led a march to the police station in Los Angeles. It was not an anti-police march; it was a let’s work together march. He and The Game proceeded to meet with officials to find out what not only the police could do better, but what the community could do better as well.
Which brings me to the point of all of this, I was curious about The Game, having never heard of him, because once again, not in his demographic.
I stalked his Facebook page and happened upon a post he wrote regarding his son. His son was discouraged with all that was going on in the world and asked his dad if there was anything positive happening. He encouraged his son to really look for something positive, for someone doing positive things.
His son stumbled upon Officer Tommy M Norman out of North Little Rock, Arkansas. He was so amazed by what this police officer was doing in his community he set up a Go Fund Me page to raise funds so the officer could continue to do what he does.
What he does is patrol his assigned community with humility, humor and heart. So much heart. I instantly took myself over to Instagram to look this man up. His handle @tnorman23, on Instagram is filled with his daily adventures.
I have become a huge fan, I watch these videos daily, my favorites are Davey, Lois, Officer Aaron and Wilbur. I highly encourage anyone who is having a tough time in life to check him out. If his posts and videos do not bring a smile to your face and warm your heart you are not human.
The Game’s son asked his dad if this man was rich, is that how he is able to bring things to the people in the community.
Officer Norman passes out snacks and juices to the children and even the adults on his beat. The Game told his son that when someone is so poor a little goes a long way.
The community that Officer Norman patrols is not a rich area by any means. It is a lower-income area, and it is one he knows well as he grew up in the very neighborhood he now watches over.
I am in awe of this man and the way the people love him, children run up to his patrol car when they see him. They shower him with hugs and affection, in return he treats them like they matter. And they do.
He has been there so long he is actually getting to see the harvest of the seeds he has sown. Children going to college now, attributing it in part, to Officer Norman’s encouragement of them.
From his trips through the drive-thru at the local McDonald’s, where he jokingly gives Mariah No Carey a hard time, to checking on Officer Aaron and the gang, to taking time out to actually attempt the slip-n-slide in a child’s front yard. He is there, he is present, he is approachable.
Please take a minute out of your day to find him on Facebook and Instagram, I promise you it will renew your faith in humanity.
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Weddings and Funerals

I have often said I like funerals better than weddings, it’s not because I am morbid or have a particular interest in the macabre. It is due to the fact that I was exposed to funerals way before I ever attended a wedding.
I was raised not only by old people, but I was surrounded by them as well. I was born the youngest in a family that was well established and had an inordinate amount of members that were born in the late 1800’s into the early 1900’s.
My parents pre-payed and planned their funerals in the early 1970’s. Every funeral we went to my mom would say oh don’t do that at mine or oh that’s a really good idea, I want that.
I fully admit I inherited that trait, I have been planning my funeral way before I planned a wedding for myself. To me a funeral is for the living, a way to say goodbye, to honor a life well lived. It is typically when someone is older and has had a full life. I have only been to two who were not old and I felt it was way before their time to go.
Yesterday was for one of those people, it was a shocking piece of news. Hearing that someone we had just spent time with two days prior had passed away.
He was young, my age, and to our knowledge had no health issues. So to get the news that he was gone was indeed jarring.
I admit I didn’t know him well, I met him and his wife through the Irishman. He was a big sports fan and was a fan of the soccer team the Irishman loves. They have a huge fan club here in North Texas and that is where they met and formed a friendship.
I would come to know them as just really good people, nice, funny, caring and sweet. They were very much in love with each other, devoted to each other. He was very simply a really nice man, that is the highest compliment I can give someone, he was genuinely nice. Kind of quiet, I could tell he was one of those people who has a gentle soul. His wife, definitely complimented his personality as she is outgoing, friendly and devoted to him and her family.
I was privileged to attend the wedding of this man and his wife, not even a year ago. It was a wedding I have often said was the perfect wedding. In a beautiful, older church, the minister was sweet, funny and spoke eloquently and knew the couple. Then the reception was punch, cake and a few appetizers. All done by the couple’s families.
The funeral was as perfect as the wedding, the song Layla by Eric Clapton, the live version, was played. I had to smile as it struck me that I wish I had known him better. This is something I often plan, my funeral, with not typical songs played.
People spoke, my original assessment of him was not changed, kind, genuine, funny, devoted to his family and friends were words that were said often.
My heart breaks for his wife; this was a funeral I truly wish had never happened.
I will be praying for his wife, mother, daughters and step-sons in the coming days, weeks, months and years they have to spend apart from this man.
I wish I had known him better, I am sorry that everyone had to say goodbye for a little while to this man. I am grateful to have had the privilege of attending their wedding and his send-off.
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