May 24, 2016 - General    No Comments

Sleep Aids


Ok, so, everyone who knows me well, knows I love my sleep aids. I have loved them for a long time, as soon as they invented night time Tylenol I was on board. I have tried many sleep aids over the years and right now I actually take a prescription sleep aid.

Well, last night, I was super tired and decided one would not do, so I took two of the little pills.

Apparently it did knock me out, however, I was still “awake”.

I awoke to an Instagram post that I have absolutely no memory of posting. I not only posted I hastagged the living daylights out of the thing. Correctly.

After finding that little surprise, I decide to have a look at Facebook. Well, apparently I was content with posting on Instagram, I also posted a video on Facebook.

Once again zero memory of looking the video up, zero memory of posting it, zero memory of writing about it.

In light of finding these things I will not be taking two of the pills again. Or, if I do, I will hide my phone first.

Today was an odd day, I found out a man died, not only died, he died in his car.

Ok, so this did not happen in my building, it was another building. The man left work yesterday, got in his car, started it and died. He just died! With his car running and the driver’s door open.

And he stayed there, dead, for over 10 hours! No one discovered him for over 10 hours! There is security in that building, they are supposed to make rounds, walk around the parking lot.

No one noticed a car, with the driver’s door open, with a dead man for over 10 hours?

This is what is going to happen to me, I can just sense it, I will die and just sit there. Until rigor mortis sets in.

This is truly horrifying; I cannot begin to imagine what his family is feeling.

Of course this brings back the thought that if I died, who would find me? How long would it take them to figure out I was dead? Would it be days? Would I sit there? Or, what if I died in my sleep. Would work notice? Or would I just be written up for no call, no show? Then fired in absentia.

These are the things I think of in my spare time, and sometimes not spare time.

In the advent of my death, I am happy to say I have done nothing I am embarrassed for my children to find out. Online or in life. I know several people that is not the case, I wonder if they would do things differently if they had a moral compass. If they thought before they acted. What if they died in a car and no one noticed? Would they be embarrassed by certain emails, Facebook messages or text messages?

Probably not, those people don’t have a thought for others, so their children probably don’t matter them much either.

So if I die in a car, please come find me, if I don’t call and don’t show up for work, please come find me.

May 21, 2016 - General    No Comments

FA Cup and other stuff

So today is the FA Cup Final, I am not even going to pretend I know what that is, however it is important to the Irishman and he wants me to go with him. So, go I will, to Vickery Park Bar, where I am sure I will have the most amazing breakfast.

Not sure about the special today, it has curry and I am not a huge fan of curry, but we shall see. I’ll report back on that.

This week at work was rough, tough, rewarding and at times touching, I got to speak to an 85-year-old widow who told me after many years of being alone she now had a special friend. They have dinner together then watch old movies she has recorded. Her receiver was down and she didn’t want to miss her dinner companion. I was able to get it working and she was so happy, she asked where I was, I said Dallas, she then told me her husband had gotten his doctorate at SMU. He had been a Methodist preacher, we exchanged a few more pleasantries and I ended up telling her the story of the time my mom caught me calling her Sarah.

Whenever people would ask me what my mom’s name was I would say Sarah, with a straight face. One day she happened to hear that, later on, she told me that was really funny, but stop doing it.

I later overheard her telling my dad about it and they both laughed and he then asked well does that make me Abraham? And they laughed and laughed.

Some parts of my job are incredibly rewarding, helping elderly people with their services is my favorite part. I love getting them on my line, I treat them the way I would want someone to treat my parents. I go at their speed and tell them if I go to fast just tell me and we’ll slow down.

So many things happening in our country, real threats of terrorism, homeless veterans, homeless families, children going hungry. Elderly not being able to afford basic things like food and their medications. We are on the brink of annihilating one another on a world level and the only thing people are posting about is where people pee.

I am going to leave you with that.

Oh and I found Tarzan from 1968 with Ron Ely on television this morning, I honestly never really appreciated the costuming on that show until just now.



May 14, 2016 - General    No Comments

Gladys the Conquerer

I have a friend, ok, I have more than one friend, but today I would like to tell you about my friend Gladys.

When I first met Gladys she had just moved here from California, she and her new husband had transferred here to create a new life to go with their new marriage.

As soon as I met her I knew we would be friends, she is funny, smart, quick witted and willing to laugh at her own mistakes. She was also the kind of person who was not complacent about where she was in life.

She continued to learn and grow, well at one point she grew a lot, she grew a baby. Yes, she and her husband expanded their family, I got to see her grow not only as a person but as a parent. Believe me, she is an exceptional parent, planning not only around her child, but carving time out for date nights with her husband and also herself.

She is a fireball, always moving, always learning, she took this passion to keep moving in her life to learn new things. To move up in her career, I watched her go from being a call-center technician to a different kind of technician. Taking classes and moving to a new position, we were no longer in the same office, however, our friendship endures.

After years of different diets and different things, I watched her take charge of her physical health. She inspired me so much I followed her lead (I really thought me being older, I should be in the lead, however, I have learned that is not always the case) and took control of my own healthy.

Now I have the great pleasure of watching her grow even more in her career. I was beyond thrilled when she sent me a text telling me she had accepted a new position within the major telecommunications corporation that we both work for. A brand new challenge that will put her in a completely different environment. I don’t know how much I am allowed to say as this is her job, not mine.

But I will say this, she is going to be downtown in the big city now, and in my head I see her as Melanie Griffith, a total working girl, tennis shoes on for walking to the office. Switching to heels before going in the building and then taking the world by storm.

Gladys I am so incredibly proud of you for all that you have become and for what you will become. I treasure our friendship and know without a doubt you will keep inspiring me to become better at things in my life.

I can’t wait to hear about all of your adventures!

May 8, 2016 - General    1 Comment

Happy Mother’s Day

Well, today is Mother’s Day and I know I am supposed to write about that, but my head is so full of Captain American: Civil War. But I can’t really talk about that because I know I will give spoilers and BBFF hasn’t seen it, so I can’t! Yeah I gotta say I don’t care about spoiling anyone else, he and I have an unspoken agreement not to spoil movies or shows for each other. Or, maybe it is spoken, often, I can’t say, it’s a Best Friend thing.

So here we go, I know I usually talk about my mother today, however, since I talk about her a lot, I am not going to today. Except to say I was so incredibly fortunate that God decided that Odela Mae Allen Testerman would be my mom.

Today, for the first time ever, I get to have Mother’s Day lunch with all four of my living children. I cannot even begin to describe the joy in my heart that God has allowed me to have this in my life.

It will be Mexican food, of course, because I could eat Mexican food every day of my life.

Even though I am not Stacy’s mother, she is my daughter, and no I don’t feel bad she is not with her real mom today. I will relish this day as though I have earned it, well, to be honest, I feel like I earned at least one Mother’s day with her as I gave birth to her.

Selfish? Maybe. Unapologetic? Totally.

So, for today, I will be the mother of 4 children at lunch, I will enjoy it, I will relish it and I will leave it there.

Because Stacy’s real mother deserves all the credit for her upbringing, I don’t, I get to take credit for the other three.

Although, this nature vs nurture thing, I really am beginning to think nature trumps all, because it is scary how much she is like not only me but her siblings as well. It’s really eerie at times to see it.

To all of the mothers out there, whether you mother two legged children, feathered children, furry children or mooing children. Happy Mother’s Day!

May 1, 2016 - General    No Comments


Everywhere I look these days I am seeing posts and memes that say something about blessings. Count your blessings or they are blessed or your blessing is coming.

I fully admit I have been in a very dark place lately, where I can’t see anything in my life that would count as a blessing.

So, I decided to take the advice of the Internet and take a hard look into my life and find what God has given me, that I didn’t deserve.

Before I start, I want to say that I am incredibly happy for all of my friends that have so much going for them in their lives. Every time I see an accomplishment or a new acquisition I am beyond thrilled for you! I love it!

Now, back to me, I went back to the beginning, yes, birth.

First off, I was wanted, by my grandparents and several aunts and uncles and cousins. I was blessed.

I had a grandpa that fostered my curiosity and intelligence above everything else. It has stayed with me. I try to honor him in educating myself continually.

I had a grandma that taught me to argue like a southern woman. Highly useful.

I was blessed with teachers that encouraged my love of reading and writing. A true blessing.

Next I acquired parents, real ones, I wish I had appropriate words to express how that changed the trajectory of my life. Gods hand, totally.

I became an Owassoan, not by birth, but by adoption, the way my parents adopted me.  Owasso gave me a sense of belonging in a lot of areas and a sense of security that I had never really had.

I went on to have the biggest blessings of my life. Jeffrey, Elizabeth and Alex. Then Tessa.

I didn’t count Stacy as a blessing for me, because she was a blessing for someone else. For many years.

Now, I am going to claim her, she and her children as mine. Having her move to Texas and getting to know her and her children is like a miracle to me.

I don’t have material blessings, or a career that is brag worthy, nor do I have any talents. I’ll never be a supermodel or even passably pretty.

But I have had many things in my life that count as blessings. So, those I will focus on, not the things that want to drag me into self-doubt or darkness. No more morose posts, oh don’t get me wrong, happily ever after still doesn’t exist. Fairy tales are crap, I still love them, but they’re crap. However I will not be discussing in-depth my feelings on true love.

Oh and my job, is an amazing blessing, no putting that down. It came in a time that literally saved my family. I was working three jobs, going to school full-time and raising three kids.

With that one job I replaced the income of all three of the jobs. I will be forever grateful to God for that particular blessing.

Apr 29, 2016 - General    No Comments

Ode to My Co-Workers

Ok, so, someone posted a meme the other day about co-workers, how they made going to work worth it. It was something to that effect, and I loved it, like literally, because you can now click a heart. Which means love, in case anyone is confused.

I really thought about it, in the nineteen years I have been gainfully employed by the large telecommunications corporation that I work for I have been most fortunate.

There have literally been two people in those years that seriously scared me, like postal worker scared me. Other than that, every person I have sat by, next to, in the vicinity of or on the same group I have simply enjoyed them.

I wish I could name each one, but that list would go to the moon and back, I have been so blessed by these people. I met my BBFF there, I formed a Buffy watching group there. I found friendship, kinship acceptance and mentoring there.

I met people who taught me work things, I met people that taught me life lessons, I met people from every walk of life. I feel every person I have ever sat by was sent by God.

When I first started I was what was considered off the street, I thought that was the most horrible term I had ever heard. I quickly learned the ropes and found a place where I could not only grow professionally but personally.

I found people to commiserate with, to have intellectual conversations with, I found kind people, funny people and good old fashioned amazing people.

I have found a little bit of myself in almost every one of them.

I don’t understand when I read about people complaining about their coworkers. The ones I have now, in my group are awesome, an overused word I know, but it is fitting in this case.

I honestly didn’t know what to expect when coming to this department, we were all coming with more seniority than the majority of employees there. If you don’t work for a large unionized corporation, then you will not understand the importance of seniority.

It’s a huge deal. Would they be angry? Would they not like us on spec? how would I feel if someone, a lot of someones just showed up and dropped me way down?

I needn’t have worried, the welcome I experienced was really terrific, the very first thing the person sitting right across from me said was, and I quote: “hey! We’ve been waiting for you guys! We heard you all were the cream of the crop, we’re really excited for you to be here!” that was Jerome, and he is just like that sentence sounds, sincere, kind and enthusiastic. I cannot tell you how much he has helped me. Wylie with his experience of outside line and installation work, continues to amaze me with his knowledge. Eric with his humor and willingness to share his knowledge, all of them! They all do! It’s such a sharing environment, everyone chimes in with ideas and knowledge, I have even been able to bring things to the table with my knowledge of email issues and also mac configurations.

I have been reminded of how lucky I am to have a job by some, I am not lucky, I am blessed and fortunate. Not only by being able to make a living but by the people that the job has brought into my life.


Apr 24, 2016 - General    1 Comment

Lies the Media Tells Us

It’s Sunday, I’ve had coffee, a lot of coffee, strong coffee, it’s a sign for me to get a few things off my chest.

Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are all working to irritate me this week, it seems all of my feeds are filled with memes regarding happily ever after. Which, if you know me, you know I don’t believe in.

It’s crap, it is pure crap that is fed to us from day one, Cinderella finds her prince, Sleeping Beauty is awakened by true loves kiss, Snow White, same plot line, stop the insanity.

There is no such thing as true love, there is no such thing as happily ever after, there is no such thing as finding someone who will love you through everything and stay faithful.

The world exalts cheaters, almost all love stories that are based on lies and cheating! Brad and Angelina, Johnny Cash and June Carter, everyone wants to say oh their love is so strong, look how they love each other.

Both couples had their roots in cheating, Brad cheated on Jennifer (much better human than Angelina IMHO), Johnny Cash cheated on his wife, left her with their children to go to this woman.

And people today exalt that, I am sickened by cheaters, there is a special place in hell for them, I hope.

Let me tell you what happens to the one cheated on, because no one in this world will tell you that.

They slowly die inside, the cheating must have been their fault, they weren’t pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough, accommodating enough, sexy enough, they just weren’t enough.

Their soul shrinks, they trust no one, not men, not women, because a woman caused this pain. And even though I am going to take a lot of heat for this, the woman could have said no to the cheating man. Their lives will be spent alone, due to the fact they will never trust another human, with the exception of their immediate family, by immediate I mean children and grandchildren.

Men will look, but if they find no one to cheat with, well, what happens then. I don’t know, because there will always be women that are skanky and willing to bed a man that is taken.

There is only one happily ever after and that is in the love of Jesus Christ, God, the Holy Spirit. For God so loved the world He sent His ONLY begotten son. To die for us, so that we may have everlasting life. That’s love, Jesus didn’t cheat on us, lie to us and lull us into complacency, thinking that our world would be perfect.

Our happily ever after comes literally after, after this life, this world.

If you are a young woman, stop looking for Mr. perfect, Mr. right, a knight in shining armor, they do not exist. In my experience they cannot help themselves, they will lie, cheat and will try and make it like you are the crazy one. Build your life to suit you, not someone else, make your own money, keep it separate and become self-sufficient.

Oh and the women that do this with them, they are the worst humans on the face of the planet. I don’t even think there is redemption for them, they are selfish, uncaring, self-loathing, ugly on the inside and it is working its way to the outside women.

My mom used to tell me that ugliness starts on the inside and works its way out, eventually the ugly inside shows on the outside, this is true. I could post a picture of an ugly one on the inside out, however, I don’t want to give her press. Also I don’t want to torture my readers with something so horribly ugly.

Typically, men will cheat with ugly women, do not look at yourself and think why would he choose that over me. There is no explanation, the women they choose, they do it on purpose, unattractive, unable to find anyone decent, they become the other woman. I don’t know why, I can’t pretend to get in their head because, well, I am not a liar, cheater or skank.

I have morals and I can take the high road, I can get on my soapbox, I can rant about this because I have NEVER cheated on anyone or with anyone.

If you are one of these women, who do this, I fully believe you will go to hell when you die. The reason being is you don’t see what you did as wrong, you see what the media has fed you, true love has no obstacles, even when the other person has made a promise to another.

Go to Church, read the Bible, get to know Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior and then maybe you will understand what you have done.

Until then, women, DO NOT believe the hype, there is no perfect mate, there is no happily ever after, there is no one true love. True love does not exist.

Apr 23, 2016 - General    No Comments

Baked Avocado

Today was a soccer match watched at Vickery Park Bar in Dallas, TX.

This is an ode to the amazing brunch I had I this place today. I got the chef’s special: Baked Avocado, avocado, stuffed with chorizo, egg and queso fresco. Served with a tomato medley, hashbrowns and BBQ ranch.

I first saw a picture three days ago on Instagram, I was immediately intrigued. I had to have it, I ordered, hoping to not be disappointed.

I was not, it was pure perfection, the hashbrowns had red onion cooked with them. I wouldn’t have thought of this, I’ve always cooked with white or yellow onion. The red was a milder flavor, not overpowering the potato flavor. The sauce was lightly drizzled on, once again not overpowering.

The flavors all worked together and created a culinary delight that I will think about for days.

I have yet to get a bad meal in this place. This is a pure, old fashioned advert for the place. I don’t get anything out of it, they don’t know me from Adam. I simply believe greatness deserves to bet touted.

Also, no matter how busy, and it’s way busy during these games, I have never gotten bad service.

The wait staff is excellent at their jobs, going about unobtrusively and professionally.

If you are in the area it is a not to be missed experience.

Apr 23, 2016 - General    No Comments

Movie Review: Everybody Wants Some!!

I’ll admit it, it’s been a long time since I have gone to to a movie theater to see something other than a superhero or science fiction movie. I had almost forgotten the joys of seeing a film that doesn’t have a hero, no one dies, no fights, well there are fights but they are human fights, no car chases, no explosions, nothing but really great acting, dialogue and character development.

Everybody Wants Some!!, exclamation points are in the title, not added by me.

The movie is set in 1980 and just spans 5 days in the life, the first five days one arrives at college. It is about the guys on the baseball team, and it is funny, smart, endearing and at time one feels embarrassment. Embarrassment if they are from that time and realized wow I did that and that and that and wore that and that and omg that’s my hair.

The soundtrack is one of the best I have heard in years, I tried to download it as soon as I left the theater, however it is not available on ITunes. I am ordering the CD, it is also offered on cassette, if it had been offered on vinyl I would have ordered it in a heartbeat.

I highly recommend this movie to everyone in my generation, Richard Linklater truly captured the period, in speech, clothing, cars, attitude and music. There is not one thing that is not spot on, from a college kid trying to put a waterbed on the second floor of an older home to the types of music that were fighting for domination that year.

I admit I went to see it based on the poster, based on the time period it was set in, I didn’t know what to expect, what I got was a great movie experience.

If you are like me, and have not gone to a movie that is not a blockbuster in a while, I suggest you slow down, choose a movie that is not filled with car chases, flying people, super strength people, drama in a different galaxy. I was not sorry with this selection, I fully understand this film isn’t for everyone, but if you grew up in the era I did, go see Everybody Wants Some!!. It was so fun, I laughed out loud (literally, not the emoticon kind of lol) I winced, I commiserated and I haven’t felt so happy in a movie in a long time.

The movie just made me happy to be sitting in the theater, I can’t even begin to explain it.

The whole experience was terrific, I had never been to the Alamo Drafthouse Theater before and I was delighted with it.

It was almost like going to someones home and sitting in their hometheater room. Only here someone waits on you and brings you food, you don’t have to go get it and you can order whatever you want.

Definetly something everyone should try at least once.



Apr 20, 2016 - General    No Comments

Dean Cain Awesomeness 

Today is the day I have been waiting for since 1993, Dean Cain liked something I said. Well, he liked one of my tweets and yes people I have the proof!

I woke to it this morning, I squealed like 12 year old Angie at a Bay City Roller sighting. 

I scared the Irishman half to death, when I explained my excitement he laughed. Then he became worried, Dean Cain is in my prenup. 

He has been and will remain the prettiest man on the face of the planet. 

The Irishman is a little worried now, which he should be and I am deliriously happy. And I don’t even believe in happiness! 

Happy, happy Wednesday! I hope everyone’s day starts as mine did. With Dean Cain goodness!


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